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How to Fire Someone You Like (With Dignity)

The hardest part of leadership. If you delay firing a low performer, you are punishing your high performers.

Mentasm Team

The Mentasm Team

December 16, 2025

Firing with Dignity

The Performance Trap

You keep them because they are "nice". Or "trying hard". But they are missing targets. The rest of the team is fixing their bugs. Principle: What you tolerate, you encourage. If you tolerate mediocrity, you will lose your stars.

The Conversation

Do not sandwich the bad news. "You're great, but you're fired, but we love you." -> Confusing.

The Script: "John, I have bad news. Today is your last day at Mentasm." State it clearly in the first sentence. "We made this decision because [Data-backed Reason]. This is final."

The Aftermath

  1. Be Generous: severance, references (if appropriate), help them find the next role.
  2. Be Honest with the Team: "John is no longer with us. We value X, Y, Z."
  3. Do Not Trash Talk: Protect their dignity.

Firing is not an act of cruelty. Keeping someone in a role they are failing at is cruel.